경청 없는 마인드맵 상담

마인드맵 상담은 게임처럼 떠오르는 생각 조각들을 툭툭 던져놓는 과정에서 무의식의 문을 여는 열쇠가 됩니다. 흩어진 감정과 기억의 파편들이 스스로 연결되며 의미 있는 별자리(스토리)를 이루는 마법을 경험하게 될 것입니다. 고통을 밖으로 꺼내 객관화하는 순간(외현화, 外現化), 당신은 더 이상 고통의 피해자가 아닌, 자신의 삶에 의미를 부여하는 ‘자기서사의 저자(Author)’로 다시 태어납니다.

이 책은 정답 대신, 평생 자신의 마음을 돌볼 ‘생각하는 힘’을 길러줄 단 한 장의 지도를 선사하고자 합니다. 저의 오랜 경험과 통찰이 녹아든 이 방법론이 길 잃은 마음 곁을 지키는 상담사분들께 실용적인 도움이 되기를, 나아가 그 철학적 의미까지 함께 탐색하는 계기가 되기를 바랍니다.

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제1부 새로운 상담의 길

 

제1장 왜 ‘경청 없는 상담’인가? ····································································13

1-1. 서론: 경청이라는 성소(聖所)의 빛과 그림자 ············································13

1-2. 진술의 고통: 언어의 감옥에 갇힌 내담자 ················································15

1-3. 상담사의 심연(深淵): 공감의 대가와 ‘감정 감염’ ······································16

1-4. 대안의 제시: ‘보여주기’로의 패러다임 전환 ·············································18

 

제2장 마인드맵 상담의 이해 ··········································································21

2-1. 토니 부잔의 ‘사고력 지도’ ·····································································21

2-2. 저자의 관점: ‘말하기’의 한계와 ‘보여주기’로의 전환 ·································27

2-3. “심리지도”의 탄생: 기억과 감정의 시각화 ···············································29

2-4. 의미의 발견: NLP 유목화와 ‘생각하는 힘’ ··············································30

 

제2부 “심리지도” 완성하기

 

제3장 마인드맵 상담의 실제(상) ····································································35

3-1. 준비단계: 라포르를 대체하는 도구 ·························································35

3-2. 1단계: 브레인스토밍-내면의 재료 꺼내기 ···············································48

3-3. 2단계: 그룹화-의미의 별자리 ································································65

3-4. 2차그룹화 - 핵심 서사의 발견 ······························································94

 

제3부 자기 이야기 구조의 재구성

 

제4장 마인드맵 상담의 실제(하) ···································································107

4-1. 3단계: 그룹의 상세화하기 ····································································107

4-2. 4단계: 재창조; 새로운 지도 그리기 ·······················································114

4-3. 마지막 단계: 솔루션 맵의 완성, 문제의 확정과 해법의 발견 ·····················122

 

제4부 성장과 확장

 

제5장 성장과 확장 - 상담을 넘어 평생의 도구로 ···········································133

5-1. 내담자의 성장: ‘자기 문제의 전문가’가 되다 ··········································133

5-2. 셀프 상담: 스스로의 등대가 되다 ··························································135

5-3. 연대기적 기법: 인생 전체를 조망하는 지혜 ············································142

5-4. 궁극의 치유, 글쓰기: 자기서사(핵심 이야기 구조)의 저자가 되다 ··············148

 

제6장 결론 - 경청을 넘어 진정한 공감으로 ···················································151

6-1. 필연적 대안: 왜 경청을 넘어서야 하는가? ··············································151

6-2. 객관적 공감: ‘보여주기’는 어떻게 더 깊은 연결을 만드는가? ····················153

6-3. 내담자의 변혁: 자기서사(핵심 이야기 구조)의 저자가 되다 ·······················154

 

마치며

자기서사(핵심 이야기 구조)의 저자를 위한 안내 ·············································159

1. 평생의 나침반, 마음 설계 ········································································159

2. 새로운 지평을 향하여 ··············································································161

 

부 록 ·········································································································163

부록 1. [저자의 실천] 집필 구상 마인드맵: 사유의 시각화 과정 ·······················163

부록 2. [이론적 도해] 상담 기법의 논리적 구조 ·············································171

부록 3. [실전 사례 1] 워밍업: 즐거운 상상 ····················································175

부록 4. [실전 사례 2] 심층 치유: 아버지와 트라우마 ······································178

부록 5. [실전 사례 3] 인생 통합: 자서전과 성장의 기록 ··································182

부록 6. [상담사 가이드] 전문가를 위한 내비게이션 ·········································192

부록 7. [내담자 가이드] 혼자서도 할 수 있는 셀프 워크북 ·······························195

 

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